To my Ex-Husband, I'm Sorry

An apology letter to an ex-husband, regardless of how things ended in your marriage, is a great start to getting closure.

Below are two letters of apology from two ex-wives, for different reasons, who desperately want to move on.



Today, I would have been married to you for 22 years. I still remember, what I deem to be, the best day of my life.

It has been 15 years and I still have such regret, sadness and heartbreak for something I'll never, ever get back.

I have never loved anyone the way I loved you.

I reflect back on my choices, my behaviors and final decisions and wish I could change everything. After all these years, I think I finally know why I did the things I did.

However, I have never forgiven myself for the hurt, betrayal and destruction I caused you, your heart and the demise of our marriage.

The pain I still feel is good, because I feel I deserve it for my selfish and inexcusable actions. You NEVER EVER deserved what I did. You were truly the best thing that ever happened to me.

I know you moved on, as you should have.

I don't think I could ever trust someone or give the person another chance after what I did. I will never re-enter your life or attempt to make contact with you.

You're free or so I hope, of the pain of me, any memories of me or any past attachments.

My greatest hope is you are happy, that she makes you happy and you're living the best life you can.

I will always thank God for you, for the time I did have and the years we had together. You must know, everything that happened was entirely my fault.

I accept responsibility and I will take it to my grave.

Happy Anniversary, I'll celebrate mentally with thoughts of you. I'd love nothing more than to be with you again, to share a meal, conversation and walk.

I miss you terribly at times and will never get over my loss.

-My Black Heart


First of all, I am writing this in English, so that I can better express how I feel.

I would like to apologise for destroying our marriage and for not standing beside you when you were finding things difficult.

I am sorry for not believing you when you told me you were suffering from depression and not being there for you in the way that you hoped.

In our marriage we steadily grew apart, I wanted more from you than you could give and I am sorry for that.

I wish you every happiness, in whatever path you have chosen to take since our divorce.

I pray that your life is filled with love, wealth and prosperity and you have everything your heart desires. I wish for you an unending amount of joy, health, and happiness.

This letter is the last time I will speak to you as I now leave you to get on with my life.

All ties are cut between us.

You owe me nothing, -not money, not love, not compliments. I also forgive you.

Please go in peace and take good care of yourself.

Yours sincerely,
M

Comments for To my Ex-Husband, I'm Sorry

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Curious and WOW that is great
by: Anonymous

The response about dinner...Did you two ever go? What was his response to this letter?

Response from my husband to my apology letter
by: Anonymous

My husband responded to my apology with this and I don't know how to respond back.

....I'm sorry too. But I have to get a divorce and move on. When that happens. I think I could have a meal with you.

Tell him
by: Betrayed ex-husband

Let him know. Not as an apology for him to accept (or not), not as an attempt to get his forgiveness, so you feel relieved in some way, but as a clear unmistakable acknowledgement that you were deeply unfair.

You were self-centered, egotistic, narcissist, aggressive, and wrong... you are guilty, you caused harm, pain, havoc and damaged his confidence, self-esteem... try and give back at least some of what you took away.

Me too!
by: JJ

Oh, how I understand where you're coming from. You put into words exactly the apology letter I should've written to my ex but now it's too late.

He passed last year and I feel terrible about never letting him know how sorry I am about what happened between us.

I know you don't want to meddle in his life in any way so I can understand why you wrote this here.

Please if you think it will help him move on, or close that chapter in his life in any way, then somehow find a way of letting him read this.

It's a tough thing, sometimes I think I wanted to tell him for my sake and not his, to get it off my chest. I don't know.

I just know that it would have been a small gesture on my part to let him know that it was me who was completely in the wrong and that I take full responsibility.

I never admitted it to myself until it was too late. I never admitted it to him.

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