Perfect Romantic Apologies

When thinking about romantic ways of apologizing, what are you really looking for? You're looking for a way to say I am sorry and I love you at the same time.

Perfect romantic apologies (like all perfect apologies) are the result of combining the Art and Science of apologizing.
 

In this case, the Art is in the romantic approach taken in extending the apology that says "I love you" and makes the person that you love feel loved. By adding romance to your apology you let them know how special they are to you, and how sorry you are to have caused them any pain.

The Science (the mix of ingredients necessary for an effective apology) has been covered elsewhere on this website so on this page we'll focus on some creative ideas that we particularly like, for extending a romantic apology.

These ideas are appropriate for anyone—your boyfriend, girlfriend, lover or spouse and demonstrate one of the key ingredients of romance—they all show thoughtfulness, and that you've gone out of your way to make the other person feel special.
 

The Custom Apology CD :::

Create a custom CD of love songs. Make the first track on the CD your apology and dedicate the CD to the recipient. (If you don't have access to software that allows you to tape yourself and transfer it to CD, use the back cover of the CD to write out your apology and dedication). Customize the front cover with a picture of the two of you and "I'm sorry" as the title.

You can hand deliver it, send it by mail or courier, or sneak into their CD collection. If you have access to their car, load the CD into the player so that the next time they start the car, your apology and dedication is the first thing they hear.

The Apology Video :::

Create a video apology. Just tape yourself apologizing and expressing your love for the person. Many of us find it easier to tell a person how much we care for them on tape or in a letter than we do in person. The video itself can be simple or sophisticated. It really doesn't matter. The point is that you are acknowledging your mistake and expressing your regret and love with something they can keep forever.

Again, you can send it by mail, hand deliver it, put it in their VCR or DVD player, or post it on the Internet and declare your love and apologize for all the world to see. (contact us if you would like to post it on this site)
 

The Apology Love Letter :::

Write an old fashioned love letter along with an invitation to join you for coffee, drinks, or a meal where you will apologize in person. Make sure to write the letter out by hand on nice stationery and seal it in an envelope. (As far as romantic apologies go, this is a classic and one of the easiest and most effective ways of delivering an apology to someone you love.)
 

The Apology Star :::

Buy a Star in their name. Yes, a real star. There are so many romantic ways you can go with this one... Give it to them while apologizing outdoors at night and looking up at the sky. Tell them how sorry you are, how they've always been a star in your eyes, and how now (by naming a star after them) the world will know it too.
 

The Ultimate Apology Gift: Jewelry :::

For those of you who are looking for that truly romantic special touch Reeds.com is a great site to explore.  Reeds has been in business since 1946 and is completely trustworthy. They  offer everything from watches to discount jewelry to designer jewelry to exquisite diamond pieces—ranging from under a hundred dollars to hundreds and thousands of dollars—they even have heart-shaped diamonds for those with extra cash on hand. Jewelry really is the "classic" apology gift. As a matter of fact, we were contacted a while back regarding our take on a poll that was conducted in the US. The survey was commissioned by a jewelry company who found that a substantial portion of their customer base purchased jewelry as a way of saying sorry. Apparently, jewelry does wonders when apologizing.
 

The Apology Event—Concert or Sports :::

Is one of you crazy for a particular band or sports team? Do you share a special song or spend time together watching sports events? Romantic apologies are about focusing on your relationship or the other person so if there is something in particular that you share together or your partner loves then find a way to bring it to them by planning a special evening for the two of you at a concert or sports event—it can really become an important memory in a relationship.

Plan a special evening with your loved one—write out a small handwritten apology, place it in an envelope along with the event tickets and create a romantic memory.

Remember that you don't have to limit yourself to just one idea on this page, combine them, mix and match them, and create something really special for the two of you.
 

The Apology Photo Album :::

Put together a photo album of pictures showing all the great times that you've shared together. You can also include a hand written apology on the first page or just a simple "I'm sorry" mentioning how nothing is as important to you as the memories in this book.

The Apology Cake :::

Buy or bake a cake (chocolate is always a good option) and ice it (or have it iced by the bakery) with a personal message from you. "I am sorry and I love you" looks great on a cake.
 

The Apology Fortune Cookie :::

Invite them for some Chinese food (either order-in or go out to a restaurant) apologize over dinner and arrange to have a special personalized message in their fortune cookie.
 

The Apology Pizza :::

If Chinese food isn't their thing, then have your local pizza shop deliver a custom heart shaped pizza to them along with an apology note. Most pizza places will oblige (when it comes to love people can be so helpful) but if for some reason they can't do it then ask them to arrange the toppings in a heart shape.
 

The Romantic Indoor Picnic :::

Extend an invitation for dinner and apologize. Set up a romantic indoor picnic. Lay a blanket on the floor, light some candles, and serve them their favorite meal (bought or home cooked). Make sure to have several courses to make it a memorable evening and not a quick bite. To 'turn it up a notch' complement the meal with 'traditionally' romantic and sensual foods such as asparagus, oysters, and chocolate dipped strawberries.
 

Apology Love Notes :::

Hide little I'm sorry notes AND expressions of your love everywhere—in their pockets, in the coffee can, the cookie jar, the butter dish, a cereal box, their briefcase, the glove compartment, their wallet, their shoes, inside their gloves etc... Make some love coupons that they can redeem whenever they want. Have fun with this idea and if you do a good job, your apology and love messages will be found for months and be a constant reminder of your love and heartfelt regret.
 

A Romantic Apology and the Heartfelt Gift :::

Give them your heart as a gift. Get a nice box and beautiful ribbon and place a heart shaped object inside…from a small plastic heart-shaped charm to a red paper cut-out, to a heart shaped diamond.

Any heart will do because it is only a symbol of your love and your love is the gift (not the object). Apologize and let them know that because they are so special to you that you're giving them the most precious thing you could think of… your heart.

Romantic apologies are about showing another person how important they are to you AND how sorry you are for what you did. The perfect romantic apology will seamlessly blend the Art and Science of an apology and bring you that much closer to being forgiven.

However, for romantic apologies to be effective you should always complement any of these, or other romantic gestures, with a face-to-face verbal apology. 

We would love to hear your ideas on romantic apologies and any successes or failures you may have had. Please contact us if you would like to share some of your own ideas with our readers.
 

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* Special thanks to www.engagementexperts.com for inspiring many of these ideas. Check them out to learn about engagement rings, engagement gifts, parties, and more.