The child and parent relationship is tricky. As children we often feel the need to apologize to our parents--sometimes it's for things we've done wrong while other times, it's because we don't feel that we're living up to our parents expectations.
Whatever the reason, saying sorry to your mom and dad (or both parents) with an apology letter is a great way to start a conversation between ourselves and those we love the most.
It also allows us to gather our thoughts and think of all the things we want to say but may find difficult to express face to face.
Keep the letter to yourself, or give it to your mom and dad—either way it's an important first step in mending your relationship.
Taking responsibility, saying sorry, and acknowledging the hurt caused will always make your bond as a child, parent, and family stronger.
An anonymous daughter writes...
Where do I begin?
I've lied to you for years. I've lied to you about money, my life and my health.
I'm sorry that I've stolen things from both you and your boyfriend. I mean I never had a reason to do it, ya know?
I mean you two have done nothing but stand up for me through it all and still I keep screwing you over.
I'm sorry that I can't be daughter you wanted. I'm sorry for being the most messed up of the family, the outcast so to speak.
If there's anything I could to make you respond to either calls, texts, emails, letters or anything I'd do it in a heartbeat. But there's just this thing stopping me from ringing the doorbell.
Because whenever I see you my heart stops and my mind goes blank and I can't seem to figure out where to start. So mom.... I'm sorry for doing it all.
Even though you cannot read this as you passed away 8 months ago, I feel like I didn't say enough or spend enough time with you when you were alive.
First thing I'd like to apologize about is how I treated you, and how much disrespect I showed you. You never deserved that, considering how sick you were.
I miss all of the advice you would've given me about life and my relationship with my fiance. You would've been the best grandfather ever, and your grandson or granddaughter would've loved to learn a bunch of things from you; like gardening and fishing, and so many other things..
Second.. I'm sorry I lied to you about doing drugs, and smoking cigarettes, considering both killed you.. Quite literally.
Third.. I love you and miss you, and I can't wait to meet you again, Maybe not soon.. But it'll happen.
Mom and Dad I am sorry. I know you expect a lot from me but I am only a human being . I know you expect me top the boards but seeing the solution to the papers I realize that I may not be able to do so.
I may not be able to top and get marks greater than Didi. I am sorry I broke your dreams but I promise you that I tried my level best to fulfill your dreams. I love you both and I am totally shattered that I may not be able to stand in your expectations. Please forgive me. Your daughter.
Today is your birthday. And everyone's running around the house cooking you your favorite foods, coloring in some cards, writing you some fancy poem, or last minute gift wrapping. And I'm just sitting here.
I have an essay that I haven't even started yet due tomorrow, an article
for journalism that I don't even know the point of, and a test. I hate myself for giving excuses. Every year it's always the same, everybody else has something to give you, and I'm always the one who has nothing to say, and nothing to give, and nothing to do.
I have no time, daddy, and I'm so overwhelmed, and stressed, and lost in all this schoolwork and extracurricular. I don't even have time to make you a birthday gift. Nothing I can possibly write on here will make me feel any better. You will be home in 12 minutes and you'll sit at the table, we'll eat dinner and then they'll give you your gifts. That's my least favorite part, sitting there in front of you, and knowing I don't deserve a dad as great as you.
You do so much for me. And I can never repay you for everything you are and all that you do. Thank you Daddy, and I'm so sorry for not thanking you enough, and for having nothing for you today, to show you how I feel about you. I love you. I wish I could start this week over. I'm so sorry. I love you.
To my dear mother.....I know now how much I hurt you, how many times I was impatient with you when (I see now) you were doing the best you could. I was so hateful and hurtful to you and you always forgave me. I love and miss you so much and I'd give anything to be able to make it up to you. It's too late for that, of course, but I pray to God every night that He will tell you how much I care.....You've been gone for eight years now, but I still grieve.....Your daughter, Bev.
Mom... I am so sorry things turned out the way they did. I wish I had been more patient with you. I will always be thankful for when you were ill and I was able to take care of you for a change. I'm sorry I didn't spend more time with you, brushing your hair or rubbing your feet. I love you.
I'm sorry I read your diary. I shouldn't have done it, it was absolutely wrong and I should have respected your privacy
This is my apology letter to my parents, because my phone is always blocked from wifi and safari and texting, so my friend gave me a phone that I could use to download apps and talk to my friends on wifi... this is the second time I've done this and my parents found out today.
This is my apology to them.
Dear Mom and Matt: I'm sorry for lying about taking Andrew’s phone AGAIN and using it without you knowing. I was afraid and didn't want you to know that I had it because I didn't want to get in trouble and I didn't want you to take it away.
I understand that I was wrong to do that. It's important to tell the truth and I wish that I had. I didn’t want to hurt you, and I will take full responsibility for what I did. I really regret doing it now because I know I will be grounded.
You guys mean a lot to me and I keep ruining our trust by lying and manipulating you.
Is there any way I can earn your trust back? Next time I will tell the truth, even if it gets me in trouble, because it feels worse when you're upset with me. I hope that I can earn your trust again by being more honest.