Creative Ways to Say Sorry
There are so many creative ways to
say sorry, which is why adding your own special touch to your apology can make all the
difference in getting things back on track.
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Apology Gifts :::
Apology gifts add that 'extra touch' to your apologies. Keep in mind that
they absolutely aren't necessary for an apology to be effective. What makes
them so special (and something to consider when thinking about ways to say
sorry) is that they are NOT necessary or expected. Just
make sure when giving a gift that it is given WITH an apology and is not THE
We've come across some really interesting options for apology
gifts that show the
recipient that you went out of your way to find something special.
This one adds that extra wow
factor. Buy a Star
through the Online Star Registry (yes, a real star... and name it after
them). Give them the star along with your apology and tell them how brightly
they shine in your heart.
It tops our list of great and personalized ways to say sorry. Read
Dave's experience with this unique gift.
The old romantic standards of flowers, gift baskets, candy, and stuffed animals are
always effective and appreciated for personal relationships but the only real
limit on any apology gift is your imagination.
Flora2000 offers US and
Worldwide Flower Delivery and has great gift baskets too.
We like them because their arrangements and baskets are designed with a
European flair and not the usual stuff you get when ordering online.
And for those looking for that "classic" apology gift, jewelry is the way to go. This is most
appropriate for intimate relationships and is supported by a recent survey
conducted by a jewelry company in the US who found that a substantial amount
of their customers bought jewelry as a way of saying sorry. For this type of
extra-special gift, we like Reeds.com.
They're a great company, completely trustworthy and have been in business
since 1946. They offer everything from discount jewelry to diamond rings, fine jewelry,
designer pieces and watches. They even
offer a heart-shaped cut diamond and other heart pieces which are perfect
for saying sorry to that special person in your life.
Poems and Poetry
A poem has long been considered
one of the most thoughtful, symbolic, and romantic ways to communicate ones
capture the essence of a person's thought and often invoke an emotional or sensual response.
When thinking about ways to say sorry however, a poem or some poetry alone
is almost NEVER a sufficient alternative to a good and meaningful apology. This
is a common mistake.
Obviously, the perfect
apology can only be tailored to your particular situation, so poetry
alone is not likely to do the trick. Use poetry to
let the person know how important your relationship is, but frame the
poem with a well crafted verbal or written apology appropriate to the
For example, if you'd like to include poetry when apologizing to your
sister, then add a poem that really highlights the essence of the important
that siblings share. And when apologizing to your boyfriend or
girlfriend include a romantic, touching and heartfelt love poem that speaks
to something special or unique to your relationship.
Finding the right
poem is NOT always easy, so take the time to read and find the right one for
See examples of poems and how to use
Using quotes or quotations can also help to illustrate a point and enrich your
apology. But like poems quotes should be used to support your apology and not be the apology itself.
For example, in a situation where you remained quiet when a friend needed
support, the following sentiment from William James may help:
The quote acknowledges the error and takes ownership of the
mistaken choices madetwo key ingredients of a perfect apology.
Moreover, your apology will likely be better received and more effective because you chose a quote that expressed the injured party's
point of view.
"When you have to make a choice and don't make it,
that in itself is a choice."
"A stiff apology is a second insult.... The injured
party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he
wants to be healed because he has been hurt."
Gilbert Keith Chesterton
On our quotes page we provide a few good
examples of quotes and what situations they are best tailored for.
We also have a few other quotes pages on...
:: interesting quotes found
on the subject of apologies
:: apology quotes by famous people
:: quotes on forgiveness
Music and Song Lyrics :::
Quoting song lyrics in a letter can also enhance your apology, for many
of the same reasons. The added advantage of using song lyrics is that you can include the song
on a custom made CD (or, even better, an Ipod) as a gift to go along with
For example, Chicago's "Hard to say I'm sorry" has some beautiful lyrics about promising to make things right again.
"After all that we've been through,
I will make it up to you. I promise to."
Think about a favorite song that you share and how
you can bring that into your apology or offer it as a gift, but remember to
relate the song to the situation by framing it within a traditional apology.
Perhaps it's a song you were dancing to on your first date, or one you were both listening to
on a memorable vacation, or the music that was playing on the radio when you had the
fight. If it's relevant in some important way to your relationship or the situation
then the addition of music or lyrics will likely enhance your apology. Relevance is
a key to success when thinking about effective ways to say sorry.
Apology e-cards and Greeting Cards :::
Sending e-cards is another alternative when considering ways to say sorry.
They offer a quick and easy way to extend an apology for
minor infractions. Apology ecards can also be a great
vehicle for extending an invitation for a meeting where you can then deliver that
perfect verbal apology.
When choosing an apology e-card, think about an appropriate (and relevant)
image or sentiment related somehow to you, the injured party, or your
Greeting cards are also very useful for adding that special touch to your
apology. Because we associate receiving one with a special occasion or
memorable event, they add a level of importance to an apologysuggesting to
the recipient that your apology is heartfelt.
There are so many great ways to say sorry. Finding the right one for
your situation requires a little thought and planning. But adding
that little 'extra something' to your apologies will pay off big time!
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